Of Expectations

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"Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you."

This is a dangerous rule to live by. It sets expectation on others. You'd subconsciously expect them to act the same way - and that always get tricky. Maybe I am over analysing something in the annoyingly angsty way of mine, I don't know.

Why is it that we are always pushing ourselves to rise beyond the expectations others have of us, but end up feeling insignificant when it comes to our own expectations? While this has always bugged me, it's more so now because of certain things that have been happening around me recently. Thinking about this because of those things makes me feel ashamed of myself, because I know love should not have expectations.

Time and again, I remind myself not to have expectations of people I love. But somewhere along the way, when I end up broken-hearted because of having been treated in a way I would never treat them, the hidden expectations pop up.

And I know this is not just restricted to myself. Everyone feels this far too much as well. Perhaps our perceptions are too intricately distinct to effectively predict how someone would perceive things from their point of view. Putting yourself into someone else's shoes helps, but maybe not as much as we would credit it for. Most of the times, they would rather you did something more or something else, and there you fail, with the gracious fall of their face or heart.